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Tanqueray Texas AIDS Ride 2
Kate's story
I am a 43 years young female! I graduated from St. Edward's
University with a degree in Sociology and International Studies. I have PTSD and have just
been able to function out in the world for about a year now. I have a very low tolerance
for anxiety and am prone to panic attacks. I help my husband Bryan with his work and keep
his books. And I ride, ride, ride.
I did the Tanqueray Texas AIDS Ride for several reasons...one was because about this time
last year I was ready to re-enter society and knew I was not ready to go back to work, or
go to school, or anything else by myself. When I first saw the ad for Tanqueray Texas Aids
Ride 2 (TTAR2), I knew I had to do it. Luckily Bryan agreed to do it with me. I figured it
would be a good way to improve my physical and emotional self while meeting some new
people. Last but not least, my best friend since High School died from AIDS. I was not
well at the time and wasn't with him. He was often a very lonely person and I have always
worried that he was alone in the end. I knew this ride would allow me to be there for
him...maybe late but it would help. We also have a very good friend whose son has AIDS.
When we signed up for the ride he was doing great. He was doing well on the medications
and had just moved for a new job. I wanted to do what I could to keep things going for
him.
My reaction to the ride...I have had trouble adequately describing the ride. I know it was
one of the best things to ever happen to me. The way people were always there for one
another (even though some were total strangers) was almost unbelievable. I almost didn't
notice the physical part of the ride (which is a miracle considering I a was a total couch
potato just 10 months earlier). It was more miles than I had ever ridden, it was tough and
I know that on the century day my right foot hurt so bad I was in tears for the last third
of the ride. I have a memory here and there of this pit stop or that road but can't come
close to picturing the route. Somehow these are just vague memories back there some where.
What I do remember is the compassion, the kindness, the unconditional love and the
creativity of the riders, crew and staff. I feel like if everyone would bring what they
experienced in the "ride world" back to share in their "everyday
lives" we could really change this world.
As I trained and raised money, there were several friends and even some family members
who questioned the amount of money that actually went to the beneficiaries, and Pallotta
Teamworks and their involvement. All I could do was keep repeating what I had heard, that
even though the percentages weren't as high as some other fund raising efforts, the AIDS
Rides had provided millions of dollars to it's beneficiaries. Now I know the ride is so
much more than the money. The American AIDS Ride movement is in my blood.
There are so many stories...on the ride out of camp day three I was just about to lose it
when a guy came up and said he could use a hug and that hug he needed saved me from having
a panic attack and I was able to gain control and ride on... When we rode into camp after
riding the century the drive was lined with others clapping and chanting
"Deadeye!"... After we got off our bike a woman came up and said her husband
wondered why she never showed her emotions and that she wished he had been there to see
her crying as we rode in. When they gave Bryan his orange band for watching the
safety video...on Day Zero when Bryan & I (and I won't mention other names) rode
across the Astro Arena parking lot, we turned the corner and what seemed like a hundred
voices yelled "where is your helmet". It is probably the first (and definitely
the last) time I rode without a helmet and I just knew I was going to be expelled from the
ride...Holding another rider (who I didn't even know before training started) and crying
with him when he got sick on the century. I could go on and on but I will save some
stories for Bryan.
Bryan's story
To begin with, My name is Bryan J. Shipman. I am 62 years of age. I
am totally blind and have been since I was 15 or so. I have a Bachelor's degree from North
Texas and a Master's from U. T. Austin. I taught school for 14 years and since then have
been in one form or another of food service for the last ten years. My first wife and I
have four children now ranging from 29 to 37 years. Kate and I have been married 14 short
years and loving it.
Beginning in August of 98 I chose to become semi retired. I thoroughly enjoyed doing
this for about four months, and then decided that this had to change. I did not want to go
back to work full-time so when Kate mentioned riding for AIDS, I started getting excited.
There were, and still are, several reasons - like general mental and physical health, and
I just had to do it for and with Kate since she was and is even more excited than I, and I
couldn't say no. I truly believe the two most important reasons are, since so many have
done so much for me, it would be a chance to give something back, and maybe what little
bit I do might go a little way toward conquering this awful HIV/AIDS
situation.
TTAR2 was my first AIDS ride, but God willing it won't be my last. During training
rides I began meeting a lot of very wonderful people. During the ride itself there was
this flood of awe-inspiring people and it was an extraordinary place to be. I felt a
genuine feeling of family with everyone helping and caring for each other. There was this
atmosphere of thoroughly being alive and enjoying being with one another--it was I hope a
taste of what heaven is going to be like.
I think the funniest thing was the story about the T-shirts. After the ride on day one,
Ron Craw was wearing a T-shirt that had written on the front "Bryan's B*tch" and
on the back it had written "Don't tell Kate she thinks we've been fishing."
After I stepped from the shower I was given a T-shirt that said essentially the same thing
except that I
was Ron's B*tch. Kate was given a T-shirt that had "I am Kate" written on the
front and "Boy am I pissed" on the back. The people that knew us thought it was
quite funny, but those who didn't know us didn't know what to think. One woman asked me
"Just exactly what is ya'lls relationship?"
A very stirring thing was when a man walked up to my wife and me and introduced himself
as Mark "Smith", gave us hugs, informed us he has AIDS, and told us that he
couldn't begin to tell us how much he appreciated what we were doing for him and others
with HIV/AIDS. Mark also said that he had heard that we were looking for a name for our
bike and suggested that we name her Lazyboy, so we did.
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